How to Give a Eulogy
"How to Give a Eulogy" is an article that explains how to deliver a eulogy. Along with the speech deliver information it also gives funeral ideas and access to free sample eulogies. Last Word Eulogies is happy to provide this article.
Delivering a funeral speech is a good way to honor and celebrate the life and to begin the healing process after the death of a loved one. This article is intended to help begin the process.
Eulogies are heartfelt, meaningful, very positive, and also very public acknowledgements involving personal aspects of a life. The process of making personal feelings and thoughts public, helps the mind start to accept the reality of the events, as intensely impossible as that seems at the time. Also, the more organized and clear the expression of feelings and thoughts, the more the mind interprets them as accurate and authentic. One can then begin on the road to healing.
Funeral audiences are very accepting and supportive, regardless of the speech delivery. However, on the speakers part, a well written speech, knowledge of how to give a eulogy, and preparedness all ensure confidence. This knowledge will, in turn help you to relax. Also, knowing how to deliver a eulogy means that you include all your intended thoughts and feelings. Including all helps begin the healing process.
How to give a eulogy is outlined in the information to follow:
- Know your audience. Funeral audiences are a very supportive and receptive group. Most do not know how to give a eulogy but all listen, without judgement, to what you have to say. They feel empathy and compassion even before you have spoken a word. They understand your situation and are very supportive. Your speech does not have to be a masterpiece - the audience understands. This knowledge should help calm the nervousness.
- Understand the purpose of the eulogy. Although eulogies can have information about a person's life, the best ones express feelings and experiences in relation to the deceased loved one; they are touching, meaningful, and written from the heart.
- Every speech should have a logical order: an introduction, a body, and a conclusion. The introduction should state what you intend to say, the body should say it, and the conclusion should review what has been said in the body. Organization prior to speaking is key in knowing how to give a eulogy.
- Write your speech or select a readymade speech at Last Word Eulogies. Last Word Eulogies' readymade eulogies are already meaningful and heartfelt, organized and appropriate. There are ample opportunities to customize and personalized these speeches so that they are meaningful and touch the heart.
- Make sure the eulogy contains stories that illustrate your points. Stories and anecdotes rather than straight facts keep the audience's attention and they will remember and talk about these long after the service. Appropriate humor is positive; given the stress of the event, everyone present will benefit from the relief, so feel free to make one or two of your stories of a humorous nature.
- Repeatedly practice your speech and when you are ready, deliver it to someone close to you. Know it. As you practice, revisions will surface. Make sure you edit. Make your words, illustrations, and facts simple, clear and easy to understand. Time yourself to and adjust the length or the speed of delivery to fit the time frame.
- Verbal delivery is crucial. Use your written speech as a guide but avoid straight reading. Speak clearly and project your voice. Pause after important points. Vary the tone, pitch, speed and sentence length of your speech to match the content. For those with the priviledge of time, skills on how to give a eulogy, can be practiced at various public speaking groups in your community.
- Use visual aids, if desired. A picture of the deceased visible for the audience allows you to address the deceased, via their photograph, during your speech where appropriate. You may create a Power Point presentation as a supplement to your words or create and distribute handouts with the speech highlights and a photograph.
- Make sure your clothing is comfortable, well fitting and of a conservative nature. Sober colours other than black are appropriate today, although black is still acceptable.
- Bring a glass of water with you and have a drink just before the eulogy or prearrange to have water at the podium and sip it before starting. Remember, the audience is not judging you, they are on your side and interested in what you have to say. Clear your throat and breathe deeply to relax.
- "Fake it until you make it" applies here. Assume a confident manner and before you know it your natural confidence surface. Resist the urge to apologize or gripe. If a cry surfaces, know that everyone will understand. Take a moment to compose yourself. This is very natural and expected given the circumstance.
- Connect with members of the audience in various locations throughout the room by making eye contact and holding it briefly.
- Thank the audience and if you are the last speaker invite them to share stories and enjoy the food prepared in the gathering that follows. Or in words that honor the beliefs and traditions of deceased's faith, wish the audience healing.
- Just be yourself, take your time, and do your best.
- Finally, reward yourself for learning how to give a eulogy and following through.
Public acknowledgement, recognition and tribute of a deceased loved one, with a eulogy, is so important for speaker and audience. It begins the healing process. So take a leap and show everyone concerned that your loved one deserves the utmost respect.